How Far is too Far?

Once broken or that invisible line is crossed can a relationship be saved? Is it possible for our significant others to go too far? Finally , can we as women every really trust a man once he has broken that trust?

These are some questions that I ask myself every day. Listening to women today I think the answer is not simply black and white. A lot of times we tend to accept things that we normally would not when love becomes a factor in the relationship. Overlooking those “warning signs” we move forward with the relationship slowly compromising ourselves to get what we think we want.

Something as simple as changing our hairstyle, going out with girlfriends, or changing our friends to make “him” happy is something that we are willing to do during the honeymoon phase of the relationship. However, once a certain comfort level is reached and our guard is down slowly small changes are made. Something as simple as staying out a little longer, working extra hours, spending more time with the home boys becomes something he starts to do on a more regular basis.

Now our feelings are involved and we are all too willing to deal with it. This is what I call the catch 22. We are wrapped up in mess but can’t tell its mess because we think this one is different until the late night calls start or the text messages that he doesn’t want to answer in front of you. My momma always said don’t ever ask questions that you truly don’t want the answer to.

Ignorance is not always bliss. Once we discover our prince charming is really a toad how do we handle that? How many chances do we give someone to hurt us? Some women are so beat down by life and love that they are willing to “deal” with the drama. If we don’t respect our worth who will? Women need to realize that a man does not define our happiness and if we are not happy with our selves then we need to look within before we look out. I believe if we truly looked at ourselves in the mirror and what stared back was a thing of beauty we would truly begin to see why we are ..strong, self-sufficient women who should never compromise ourselves to settle for second best. Why make ourselves the option when we are the priority?