THE MENTALITY OF THE SIDE PIECE

To be honest this a topic that many of us go through. You are attached with a wife or wifey husband or boo and for whatever reason you have decided to taste from the forbidden tree of infidelity. There doesn’t have to necessarily be a bad situation at home for this to happen. Sometimes it’s just too hard for the libido to resists “Temptation’s” invitation to the V.I.P.

So we are clear this isn’t a lying or manipulative situation. There aren’t any “supposed” ulterior motives here. To take it a step further both parties have disclosed their current relationship status. In most cases it seems the woman is usually single or so she says. Either way the boundary lines have been drawn. There is no need to address the “if you were happy you wouldn’t be with me” or “she must not be doing something right cuz I got you” most shocking “I’m better than she is.” Thinking that this is surely a situation with everything up front we press on blindly. Life is well and all is good. The “friend” is working out and everything seems “A” ok. LET’S GET IT POPPIN!

Who knew that all good things must and do come to an end. Out at the club or at the mall or while watching TV all of a sudden while you weren’t looking someone replaced your “friend” with a psycho. We’ve all seen the couple arguing at the club knowing that he just got caught looking at another outfit tightly fitted around a whole bunch of sumtin sexy. Oddly enough though nowadays the woman that is doing the yelling is not “The Girlfriend” of this braising playa, but it is none other than his once thought paradise princess “The Side Piece!” Even at the mall when you see a guy getting threatened because he almost ran into another person while watching the female shopper with the thick body in leggings and heels, you have stumbled upon the ravings of the infamous “The Side Piece.” Instead of being free from the ball and chain…now you have two. “The Side Piece” is buck and will act out more than wifey does when you’re ego-tripping. These sightings aren’t so rare considering that the new national pastime is body swapping. “The Side Piece” at work is still a sight to behold. With no regard for dignity nor herself she will put on a display that will astound and amaze. Especially him.

What becomes of a person who suddenly makes this transformation? As I said this isn’t a lie filled fling. None of the rules have changed…in his mind! It’s the look on his face as he is being verbally shocked that causes the hysterical laughter and stares from onlookers. This isn’t the normal “dayum baby I’m sorry L.” This is the “WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON ROUND HERE!” Why is she tripping ,he’s thinking. After the tirade there may even be an apology and continued fling, but now this will be a repeat occurrence.

This brings me to my point …why is it ok to cheat on the “Wife or Girlfriend”, but not on “The Side Piece.” I don’t understand this mentality. I am cheating with you but I can’t cheat on you. Attempts to explain this thinking are almost as mindboggling as the mentality itself. When did cheating come with rules except for “you know the business!” Does this mean that no matter what the arrangement is, it probably won’t be respected? Does it mean that every fling is actually an attempt to steal someone’s mate? The irony of the mate stealing is that usually as soon as he leaves his “Wife or Girlfriend” what does “The Side Piece” do? She goes off and becomes another mans “The Side Piece.” That would leave him at 0 for 2 right? Could be…. until he gets another mate. Then he better beware of “The Side Piece” … she’s out there lurking.

As a male I could only give the male perspective. I’m somewhat convinced that in this world exists certain types of men who possess “The Side Piece” mentality. I welcome any feedback and or stories from women regarding men who cannot abide by the “friend” rules.