Dear Abby Went That Way!

Hey how are you ? ( were the words printing out in my inbox)

I’m good, I responded. (a little taken back)

He said didn’t I see you this morning in passing?

Maybe…

Well look I’m on my way to work do you think I can call you later?

(Thinking to myself I have seen this guy around for years and he has never said anything other than hello to me. I know for a fact I am not his type. before I could get any thing out of my mouth…)

He says “ I am very intrigued by you”!

Ha ! Intrigued?

Yes!

I said I know I am not your type of woman…

how do you know what type of women I like?

I’ve seen you with women…

He laughs and says I like an array of women but you are right…I usually date a certain type of woman, more fair skin…natural with pretty eyes…

( Red flag…keep it moving…he’s a jerk were the thoughts that pounded in my head)

He stopped himself long enough to say “are you going to give me your phone number”?

Against what should be better judgement…I gave him my phone number.

Later on a number with no contact information appeared on my phone and sure enough it was him. We began to converse and laugh , things seem to be flowing really nicely. He was taking a break at work and said he would call back later… at this point I was looking forward to his next phone call.

Just like he said he called back.

He asked if he could ask me a question…”Where are you in your life right now”?

I started thinking about the 6 questions that Steve Harvey said you should ask a man before you go to far:

1. What are your short term goals?

2. What are your long term goals?

3. What are your views on relationships?

4. What do you think about me?

5. How do you feel about me?

6. Do you want a family?

Then I snapped out of it… (lol) Heyyy don’t judge me , these questions be tricky and I have been working on saying what I mean and meaning what I say…I know too soon!

I replied …I’m content, Im learning to love me and allowing people to be who they are.

He then asked “are you looking for a relationship”?

(Here’s another one of those trick questions)

I’m not looking for a relationship… If it happens naturally , it happens but I’m not forcing anything. A lot of guy I meet let it be known they are not looking for a relationship they just want a “friend” and I don’t want that either.

( feeling like I gave a great answer. He says…)

I’m learning how to love myself, this is something I haven’t been good at .See I have ran off some good women, I mean some really “GOOD” women and my infidelity has allowed me to mess up everything!

( why didn’t I take the red flag and pass…)

I sat for a moment, not knowing where this was going… listening to him go on and on about his cheating ways. Then the out pour takes another turn, he begins to explain how he and his girlfriend of the last four years were on the outs and he really thought it was over this time…

( is this really happening to me? as I sat in disbelief)

“she wants to see my cell phone bill”!!!… Her phone was the one going off at midnight”!

At this point i interrupted him…”let me call you right back”! Then I sent him a text that said “ stop looking for women to confide in and work it out with your girlfriend”! When I really wanted to say “ Dear Abby went that way”!!!

Sincerely,

Sour Apples & Dip Sticks